August 10, 2011 2 Comments
“Wisdom is nothing more than healed pain…Healing takes courage, we all have courage, even if we have to dig a little to find it.” — Tori Amos
I was having a conversation with a friend the other day about adversity, choices and change in personal and professional environments. It is sad that sometimes people might jump to conclusions about us or others for reasons we don’t understand. I’ve seen it happen, someone intentionally or unintentionally says hurtful things, for different reasons. Maybe they are nervous, oblivious, angry or their delivery/intent just plain sucks. It could be there was not time to take a step back and ask about all sides of the situation, they didn’t know the whole story or perhaps just didn’t care because they were really busy.
“Don’t judge the truth you know and feel based on how other people are responding to it because they may be looking with a limited vision” –Iyanla Vanzant
Today I am here to remind you to not allow one person’s opinion or words sway you and throw you off kilter. Be true to yourself and always strive to be more. Forgive those who take their anger out on you and say unkind things, especially when you know its not true to who they are or want to be. Being emotionally intelligent in all areas of our lives is a process and in one way or another, we are always working to be more or better. Be kind to yourself.
Let’s face it, life doesn’t come in a neatly packaged box with a red bow tied around it. When the moments of uncertainty pop up it’s up to us to figure out and ask ourselves the following questions:
- How am I going to handle the “stuff” I’m not letting go of?
- What am I willing to let go of right now?
- What am I going to keep?
- What am I supposed to be learning in all of this?
It is okay to not know the answers to all of these questions, it is possible some will need to occur organically.
And so the answers don’t always come when we want them to and it is okay to not know. It is possible some answers will need to occur organically. But they do come, so hang in there because you will figure out how to re-invent yourself. Trust the process. You’ve got this and you have all of the tools you need to find the way.