Posted by KakieF on September 1, 2012
When was the last time you did one of these?
- Looked up and remembered – with intention, to slow down
- Sought out someone in need and took time to celebrate them, with them
- Turned to a friend or family member and simply said: “Whats on your mind?”
- Gave yourself permission to take a break and have a little fun
- Bought a cup of coffee for someone in line behind you
- “Accidentally” dropped a $5 bill in front of a kid at the store and said; “Say, that’s not mine, looks like you dropped something there.”
Lift your head and scan the environment, what patterns do you see? Pay attention and listen, because we all need reminders that this life is about making connections. We never get anywhere without others and when we surround ourselves with a supportive community, they help bring us back to our center. It is the essence of positive karma.
I was recently told about a book by Thomas Crum called; “Three Deep Breaths: Finding Power and Purpose in a Stressed-Out Life.” I can’t wait to read it! The premise behind the book, as Crum states, is as follows:
“Science has shown us that there are three “C’s” of a stress resistant immune system:
- A sense of CONTROL over your response to life events
- A sense of COMMITMENT to something beyond your ego (i.e., family, service, religion, or life philosophy).
- A sense of CHALLENGE and learning opportunity when confronted with a stressor.
The Three Deep Breaths technique is a mind-body process which allows us to achieve the three C’s while balancing our autonomic nervous system through the breath.
Breath # 1: The Centering Breath
Breath in the present moment, with balance and energy
Breath # 2: The Possibility Breath
Breath in the “me I want to be” with power and purpose
Breath # 3: The Discovery Breath
Breath in the mystery, let go of judgment
The Centering Breath gives us the calm and balance we need to respond appropriately rather than react negatively in stressful situations. The Possibility Breath reminds us of a purpose higher than our egos. And the Discovery Breath turns a stressful situation into a crucial learning opportunity.”
As another resource to stay grounded, I created a board on Pinterest called “Meditation” Enjoy it and pay it forward by sharing it with someone who could use a lift today.
Please comment below. What are some interesting things you or those you do to refocus and feel centred?
Four things I am grateful for today
- Validation and support systems who remind me I am centered, strong and resilient
- That children are teachers who center me, remind me about possibilities and the wonder of discovery
- My optimism and ability to re-frame possibilities
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Posted by KakieF on July 27, 2012
Meet Jacqueline this Sunday July 29, 2012 along with the Children’s Tumor Foundation to raise funds and find a cure for Neurofibromatosis. A day filled with family fun, community service that will nourish your soul, and a walk @ Minnehaha Falls. Dance with the Radio Disney Road Crew, Play Laser Tag, Enjoy Face Painting and more! If you can help, please donate to Jacqueline’s Team Walk Away HERE!
I will let Jacqueline tell you her story below! Let’s help her feel empowered!
Spread the word and THANKS for your support!
- 8:00 – 8:45 AM Check-in / Registration
- 8:45 – 9:00 AM Opening Ceremony
- 9:00 – 11:00 AM 1.5 Mile Walk
Location: Wabun Picnic Area, Minnehaha Park,4655 46th Avenue South, Minneapolis, MN, 55406
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Posted by KakieF on February 14, 2012
21 days to happiness: My story and 3 things I am thankful for:
Years ago I attended personal growth and leadership seminars by Earnie Larsen, who used the analogy of “Who is driving your bus?” to illustrate how people hold on to resentments and that often, “then is now.” So let me give you an example of what he meant by that.
When Johnny was 7 years old, his parents were constantly at odds and one day, while they were fighting, he began screaming at them to stop, started sobbing and ran outside. No one came to console him, apologize or explain the argument was not about him.
It broke a part of his spirit and sample messages he could have carried from that might be “love hurts, nobody listens to me anyway, I will never allow others to be that much in control again,” etc.
Now, what if we put that seven-year old’s outdated lie in charge of driving his life (aka bus) for 50 years? Who is behind the wheel? That is an awful lot of years of pain and false data from which he establishes his viewpoint. The reality is, his parents were probably young and just trying to figure things out themselves, but that was not what he took from the experience.
Examples like this play out every day at home and at work. As leaders,we manage people with various backgrounds and social styles. Perhaps if we keep stories like the one above in mind, it can help us incorporate emotional intelligence and compassion into our professional environments in ways that are healthy. Intent, usually comes from the right place and situations are not always as they seem at first glance.
Hanging on to resentment is a painful form of abuse that prevents us from having self-compassion, but all too often, we may not even realize we are clinging to a given injustice. That resistance gets us emotionally jammed and a majority of people do not have any idea how to get unstuck.
One solution? “And acceptance is the answer to all of my problems today.” Someone once told me there are four stages that shine in the face of love. They are:
These four things are at the core of who we are when we are born. What if we made it our goal to live these principles in every aspect of our lives daily as a way to get back to our core being? Including loving all of our resentments and saying yes, accepting the things we can’t control. What if this was your personal growth homework? What have you got to lose? Try it for a few days and let me know how it works for you. Who is driving your bus today?
Three things I am grateful for today:
- The process of allowing, acceptance, approval and appreciation.
- The idea that “If you don’t give yourself any options, you don’t have any choices.” There is always another way, we get to seek the counsel of others to help us with that.
- That I have learned how to give myself permission to let go of old resentments and lies
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Posted by KakieF on February 2, 2012
I love TEDtalks videos and Shawn Achor knows what he is talking about here.
- 90% of happiness is determined not by the world around us but by the way our brain processes the world
- 75% of job success is based on optimism, social support and ability to see stress as a challenges instead of a threat
Becoming positive NOW works and research proves we can rewire our brains to think differently, so who wants to join me in a mission to re-train our brain to become more optimistic?
Here is our plan: For 21 days, journal about one positive experience and write down 3 positive things we are grateful for, each day.
This video was posted by Guy Kawasaki over at Google+ just in time and I am thankful today. How does society’s definition of success, set us up for failure? What is your definition of success and how has it changed over the years?
I look forward to getting to learn a little more about one another.
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Posted by KakieF on November 17, 2011
Meet my little friend Jacqueline. Isn’t she adorable? She has a genetic tumor disorder called neurofibromatosis (also referred to as “NF”) and was recently diagnosed with myopic glioma, tumors that grow inside the brain. Jacqueline also has a tumor on her tongue and on the back of her head. Her mother, JoAnne Pastel, has been a dear friend of mine for many years and together we co-created Bur Bur and Friends®, a cast of characters who educate kids about differences and healthy living. JoAnne and I have co-authored 4 children’s books and Jacqueline inspired creation of a new character we call Nina.
Jacqueline is sweet and funny and intelligent and beautiful. She lights up a room when she walks in the door and her infectious laugh is delightful. She is like a daughter to me and we are on a race to create awareness about this disorder and to find a cure!
I am humbly asking for your help to donate and/or share Jacqueline’s story so we can create awareness about neurofibromatosis. The link below leads to more information and includes an account by JoAnne from a mom’s point of view. Today is Give to the Max Day in Minnesota. It is a movement to encourage charitable giving. Thank you for your support.
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