21 days to happiness: My story and 3 things I am thankful for:
Why don’t we lean on one another more and ask for help? My experience as a project manager, coach, mentor and trainer has always been to get people to step outside of their comfort zones by using leadership development strategies to confirm their thoughts, feelings and actions are in congruence with principles, beliefs, values and goals. When we understand what is important to others, we can use that as a tool bring out the best in them. People have shared some of the following reasons with me about why they don’t ask for help:
- It will make me look too needy
- I am too busy to ask for help and haven’t had the time
- Requesting help is a sign of weakness
- People will assume I am not as smart as someone else because I can’t do it myself
- Rejection
- What is the cost?
Experience has taught me that the only valid reason for not asking for help above is number 6. What is the cost? Not financially, but mentally, emotionally, professionally and spiritually. The real reason for not asking for help is about one thing.
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F.E.A.R (Feelings and Expectations that Aren’t Real).
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Emotional competence comes when we challenge ourselves to shift our paradigms towards a new way of thinking, which uncovers an alternate perspective. I have never had one business partner say they regretted being pushed to grow. Humility is an important quality in leadership. So are relationships and being connected. Communities exist for a reason, we need one another. Sometimes when we ask for help, we are giving a gift to someone who wants to make a difference.
So what are you waiting for? Who do you need to reach out to today?
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Three things I am grateful for today:
- There is power when we adjust our assumption points to expand our horizons, I am growing and learning
- I get to rely on the community of other brilliant people around me and ask for help
- My experiences that helped me write this blog post. I hope it will make a difference to someone
